Yoga International magazine came the other day, and per usual, it is filled with amazing wisdom and guidance. The "Everday Ayurveda" section, written by a very respected friend, teacher and fellow Paryogi, Kathryn Templeton, spoke about living in harmony with the cycle of the day.
Cycles are my favorite topics - the cycle of the hour, the day, the month, and the year. Ayurveda informs us on how to live in harmony with these cycles and suggests that for that day we: rise before 6:00 am to keep a sharp mind, eat the biggest meal at 12:00 pm to digest well, and go to sleep before 10:00 pm to rest well. While living this cycle has shown it to be true for me, there are other ancient wisdom traditions I've lived that also ring true. They suggest that to live in harmony with ourselves and the world, we would most benefit to awaken as the sun warms the earth, which, for almost half of my year, is much later than 6:00 am.
So now what to do? I hate conflicts. It must be the Libra in me that wants everyone to just get along. But really, I just want clarity on how to live well and feel good. So, I decided to investigate further. When IS the best time to wake up so that I feel alive, clear and vital throughout my day?
Since the conflict seems to rests with the time, let's start there.
Modern time as we understand it - 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour, 60 seconds in a minute - is relatively new. STANDARDIZED time is even more recent, starting about 150 years ago with the explosion of the railroads. Everyone needed to be on the same page so that travel and shipping could run more smoothly - so 1:00 pm in Asheville, NC needed to correspond with 1:00 pm in Honesdale, PA. Thus, began the synchronizing of clocks and creation of time zones.
But the great wisdoms for living well, both from Ayurveda and other traditions, are much older than railroads. They date back thousands of years, and back then time was measured mostly by the position of the sun in the sky. Mornings didn't start with an alarm clock and a cup of stimulation, but with the sunrise. It didn't end by shutting down the lights of a computer screen, but with the sunset or a certain constellation moving into the night sky.
In Ayurveda, Vata is the air element, and air is about movement and mobility. Vata time of day corresponds to this, when the sun is moving most dramatically in the sky - sunrise and sunset. Roughly, 6:00 am (and pm) in equatorial regions. Living in the Northern Hemisphere, the time this happens varies with the cycle of the year. In the summer, its around 6:00 am and 9:00 pm but in the winter its closer to 8:00 am and 5:00 pm.
I am by no means an Ayurveda expert, so I hope Katherine and others will weigh in, but I wonder about the very precise nature of the 6:00 am timeframe. Is it really meant to be applied universally? Perhaps it makes sense for those living on the equator, but maybe it has some flexibility for those of us farther North or South. Yet, if my premise is wrong, and not simply based on me wanting to sleep in during the cold months, then perhaps this Ayurvedic wisdom is based on something much more subtle than the yearly rhythms of the sun?
From my limited understanding, the cycle of the day is held within the cycle of the year, therefore the time I for me to wake so to feel my best depends on the time of year and where I'm living. This may not provide consistency through the whole of my year (which I think Ayurveda would prefer), but it does harmonize with the yearly cycles. I like my theory, NOT because it would allow me to sleep later in the winter and watch the sunrise glow on the mountains to the West, but because it allows the various traditions to support each other. Something my Libra brain likes.
It is simply harmony that I seek...harmony and deep understanding. That...and feeling good too.
Thanks to Katherine and everyone at the Himalayan Institute for helping me to dig deeper.
May we all rise, eat and sleep well.
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Saturday, September 1, 2012
Ancient Wisdom 1.1
The mind...
It is usually dull, like a water buffalo or distracted like, a monkey. In either of these states, its not especially useful! In fact, mine can be down-right abusive. That's when I have remind myself of the wisdom I found on a bumper sticker, "Don't believe everything you think".
Yet on occasion, I'll glimpse another state of mind - one that is clear and sharp. It is discerning and wise. The yogis called it one-pointed, and it is the place from which greater understanding and wisdom eventual comes.
Yoga scholars, those with more certificates than I, claim that we live in 5 states of mind: disturbed, dull, distracted, one-pointed and mastered. Most of us fit into one of the first three state (as if that is a surprise to anyone who has sat down to meditate.)
For years, I chastised myself for not being more clear and one-pointed. But recently, I began to understand there is no judgement in these labels. In fact they are really powerful and helpful tools to let me know where to begin on any given day. I need to know if my mind is disturbed, because the set of practices I do will be different than if my mind was merely distracted. It's like if I was trying to get to Charleston, I wouldn't want my GPS to give me directions from Wisconsin if I was coming from Asheville. They wouldn't be helpful.
It is the same with Yoga. I'm not going to do long inhales if what I need is long exhales. I need to be honest about where I am, so I know where to begin.
Patanjali's Yoga Sutra 1:1 says "Now, after having done prior preparation through life and other practices, the study and practice of Yoga begins."
This is the beginning of the science of yoga. It start with a little self honesty, some simple preparations for the mind to be more stable, and the willingness and desire to truly know thyself. This is when the fun REALLY begins!
It is usually dull, like a water buffalo or distracted like, a monkey. In either of these states, its not especially useful! In fact, mine can be down-right abusive. That's when I have remind myself of the wisdom I found on a bumper sticker, "Don't believe everything you think".
Yet on occasion, I'll glimpse another state of mind - one that is clear and sharp. It is discerning and wise. The yogis called it one-pointed, and it is the place from which greater understanding and wisdom eventual comes.
Yoga scholars, those with more certificates than I, claim that we live in 5 states of mind: disturbed, dull, distracted, one-pointed and mastered. Most of us fit into one of the first three state (as if that is a surprise to anyone who has sat down to meditate.)
For years, I chastised myself for not being more clear and one-pointed. But recently, I began to understand there is no judgement in these labels. In fact they are really powerful and helpful tools to let me know where to begin on any given day. I need to know if my mind is disturbed, because the set of practices I do will be different than if my mind was merely distracted. It's like if I was trying to get to Charleston, I wouldn't want my GPS to give me directions from Wisconsin if I was coming from Asheville. They wouldn't be helpful.
It is the same with Yoga. I'm not going to do long inhales if what I need is long exhales. I need to be honest about where I am, so I know where to begin.
Patanjali's Yoga Sutra 1:1 says "Now, after having done prior preparation through life and other practices, the study and practice of Yoga begins."
This is the beginning of the science of yoga. It start with a little self honesty, some simple preparations for the mind to be more stable, and the willingness and desire to truly know thyself. This is when the fun REALLY begins!
Thursday, August 30, 2012
An Old Approach to Wellness Moves to Town
Revisiting a traditional approach to Wellness
Wellness Coach
and Yoga Therapist Jacquelyn Dobrinska opens new office in South Asheville
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
September 1, 2012
ASHEVILLE, NC- “Each person has a unique equation that will make them feel their best.” So says Jacquelyn Dobrinska, the Wellness Coach and owner of The Alchemy of Transformation Wellness LLC, opening a new office on Hendersonville Road near Biltmore Forest in October.
From weight loss to stress
management to feeling more peace, wellness is the headline of magazines at the
check out counter and the ads on the side of facebook and google. It is also the grail for which many
people search.
“Often, we don’t pay attention to
our health until something goes wrong,” says Dobrinska. “Then we have to take
the most invasive and expensive approaches to remedy it. Luckily, people are waking up to the possibility
that they can proactively create wellness through simple, daily choices that
are less invasive and expensive. Wellness coaching helps them do that.”
Wellnesss coaching is a lot like other forms of coaching. Just as a sports coach helps shape
behaviors to improve his team, a wellness coach supports a client to manage
lifestyle choices that affect their health. A coach will often work with a
client to set goals, provide encouragement and evaluate outcomes on nutrition,
fitness, stress management, sleep, smoking, depression, anxiety, addiction and
in some cases, chronic medical problems.
Dobrinska’s approach to wellness includes
what she calls the “spiral of the eight direction”, which investigate not only
a client’s physical needs but his or her emotional, relational, spiritual,
environmental, occupational and creative needs as well. While this approach is
a blend of several modalities, a lot of the techniques come from yoga
therapies.
“Before the rise of the medical
profession, when a person felt out of balance - sick, tired, stressed, overwhelmed, underwhelmed, confused
or simply have poor relationships with themselves or others - they would go to
their local healer for treatment,” says continues, reference her long-time
teacher Rod Stryker. “In India, the healer was the local yogini or yoga teacher. A student would be given a specific set
of postures, breathing techniques, meditations, herbs and diet recommendations
- almost like an equation - that returned the person to a unique point of
balance. One-on-one coaching
allows me to support a client in finding this equation – something that is harder to do in a group setting.”
Dobrinska incorporates many other
healing modalities into her practice. Clients find additional wellness support
through her skills as a personal trainer, certified herbalist, and ordained minister.
“My mission is to use my ten years in
alternative healing modalities – as well as my experience living and working at
one of the country’s top yoga and wellness retreat centers - to empower people
in their own health,” she
says. Moving her practice to a
more centralized location in Asheville helps her do just that.
Jacquelyn continues to teach group
yoga classes and stress management to reach those who are not able to schedule
one-on-one appointments. Currently she offers small classes to staff and
oncology patients at Mission Hospital through the Integrative Health
Department; community and professional development classes at A-B Technical
College; and semi-private classes to small businesses and individuals. She is the vice-president and
co-founder of the Greater Asheville Yoga Association and continues to write for
Red Moon Herbs.
Dobrinska starts her practice The
Alchemy of Transformation Wellness LLC located
at 494 Hendersonville Road Asheville, NC 28803 in October 2012. A
limited number of new client appointments will be available two days a week –
Tuesdays and Thursdays.
For more information, or to book an appointment, please call 828-337-2737 or check out the website at www. TheAlchemyofTransformation.com
For more information, or to book an appointment, please call 828-337-2737 or check out the website at www.
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THE RIDE OF A LIFETIME
Many of my students and
clients project an image of me that I rather like – one where I spend my days
sitting on lush mountain tops with legs contorted around my head, enjoying
peaceful states of blissful meditation while contemplating life's deepest and most
meaningful questions, "Who am I?" and "Why are we here?".
While I like to believe
there is a small grain of truth in all projections, including this one, I
have to admit that a large portion of my day consist of running around (sans
the leg wrapping, constant state of bliss and complete concentration). I bounce
between my new office, Mission’s Integrative Health Department and Cancer
Center, numerous classes in the area and various clients' homes. Like many
successful women in Asheville, daily “running” has the potential to make me
feel like a headless chicken and a more that a little frazzled.
Luckily, long ago I was
gifted a trusted set of wheels that makes this activity a bit more spacious.
No, it’s not Sylvie - my reliable, albeit boring Toyota Sedan. No, my ride is
much more subtle and close-at-hand.
This ride has three
wheels - the wheel of the moon, the wheel of the sun, and most importantly the
wheel of the breath - and it’s a set of wheels we all share.
The wheel of the breath
is the one I am most apt to call upon when I’m rushing around my day. It is a vehicle that has been present forever,
from the moment we are born to the moment we die. We come out of our mama’s
womb, get a smack on the back and draw that first life-sustaining sip. It
continues to circle around and around every single moment of our lives,
sometimes like a hot-rod, fast with excitement and anticipation, sometimes like
a cruiser, slow with awe and wonder. Then one day, hopefully in the far-off distant
future, we sputter out the final exhale with no inhale on the other side - off
to the next adventure.
The wheel of the breath
is my closest companion and dearest beloved. Working with it skillfully has
saved my life more than once – in the midst of a terrible break up, on really
“bad” days when I’m confused and am not sure where to turn, when I have to
speak my truth even though my voice is shaking, and even at those times when
the excitement is killing me. Focusing on the evenness of my breath always
has the ability to return me to a state of balance.
It is also my most
powerful anchor to life. We can go as long as 40 days without food, three days
without water, but only two minutes without a breath.
The Upanishads, a group
of ancient texts, has a brilliant story I like to tell in classes (hopefully I'm getting it right). It’s about
the senses, which in this case included the mind and the breath. The senses
start fighting, as they do. This time it’s over which one is the most
important. After heated discussions that go on for way too long, they decide to
solve the argument by each leaving the body for a year. At the end of several
years, so the story goes, they would know which one was king (or queen as the case may be). One by one they
take their turns, and while there are certain challenges with each absence,
including blindness, deafness, and coma, the body still lives. Finally, the
breath takes its turn and within minutes the other senses begin to fade away.
“Wait” they call out in unison. “Come back! You are indeed the ruler of us
all.”
We cannot live without
the breath, and the practice of shaping it for greater ease is an ancient
practice. The Yoga Sutras, a 2000 years old text, states, “The mind can be made
stable and tranquil by regulating the breath” (Sutra 1.34).
Most of the time the breath
is unconscious. We breathe in and out without being aware of it. If we’re
stressed, the breath will become shallow and rapid. If we’re relaxed, the
breath becomes slow and long. If the mind is quiet, the breath is quiet. If the
mind is agitated, the breath is agitated. The breath reflects the mind
Yet, luckily, we can take
conscious control of this vehicle
of breath. Instead of the breath
simply reflecting the mind, it can shape it. This is a profoundly simple and
powerful piece of knowledge, and by employing it skillfully; we become the
conscious drivers of our own experience. With this knowledge, on our headless
chicken days, we can shift our experience to start one that feels a bit more
like an expansive, hawk-flying day.
As a wellness coach and
yoga therapist, the first thing I teach clients and students is the “natural
breath”, which is the tool to create this smooth, spacious ride. The "natural breath" (excerpts from Yoga Basics published by the Himalayan Institute) includes :
1. Breathing in and out of the nostrils. This warms and
moistens the air, which creates less stress on the body and therefore calms the
mind.
2.
Breathing from the
diaphragm. The lungs, unlike the heart, are not made of
muscle fibers and for this reason they can’t breathe by themselves. We must, in
fact, breathe the lungs. The choice of muscles we use and our ability to use
them skillfully makes all of the difference. Using the diaphragm – the
dome-shaped muscle lying below the lungs and above the organs – instead of the
intercostal or thoracic muscles will create a deeper sense of ease in body and
mind. When breathing from the diaphragm the lowest ribs will move in and out in
all directions and the low, mid and upper belly will expands and gently fall.
3.
Breath that is smooth.
Often there are little jerks and catches in the breath that reflect tensions
held largely outside our awareness. As we relax the body and simply watch the
breath, these jerks and catches - as well as some of the tensions - will naturally
melt away. Don’t worry about any that may remain, over time they too will begin
to disappear.
4.
Breath that is even.
To create stability in the mind, the inhale needs to be equal in length to the
exhale. For example, if you inhale a slow, steady count of four, then you can shape
the exhale to be the same, slow, steady count of four. In this way, you release
the same amount that you receive.
5. Breath that is without pause. Often,
we unconsciously hold the breath, either at the top of the inhale or the bottom
of the exhale. Both of these create stress on the system and can contribute to
a sense of constriction in the mind and emotions. Ideally, our inhale melts
into our exhale and our exhale melts into our inhale.
(An important side note
for those of you who have taken a yoga class! Some teachers, as well as some
parts of yoga therapy, will stress holding or suspending the breath at certain
points. While this kind of conscious shaping and breath control can cultivate
different energetic effects – for example relaxing or invigorating depending on
where the hold is inserted – they must be employed only after developing the
"natural breath" and with great awareness of an individual’s specific needs.)
Visualizing this smooth,
even, steady, unbroken breath, it will begin to look and feel a lot like an
oblong circle. The inhale comes up one side of the oval, transitions smoothly
into the exhale, which moves down the other side of the oval, until it
transitions smoothly into the next inhale. The breath becomes a wheel, and its
character (though strangely oval) creates a smoother, more expansive ride.
We are all born with a
natural breath, so why would we need to learn it? Simple. Over time postural
habits, stress, emotional responses, birth and life traumas, regular dietary
habits, cultural conditioning and much more will conspire to resist the natural
breath in our own unique and awkward way. Part of yoga therapy is to find
exactly where a client’s breath is tense, and then develop the skills to unwind
it and breathe more effortlessly.
The breath is a powerful vehicle
and everyone has it. So, when my mind and emotions are running away with me,
when the list of to-do seems too big to be done, when the running around seems
just a little too hectic, or the fight with a loved one won’t quite fall into
its proper place, it is the “natural breath” that I turn
to over and over again. When all else fails, I “let the inhale equal the exhale
and pray for grace”.
Sunday, February 19, 2012
Choosing...
It is a quiet night, deep in the dark of winter.
Grandfather sits with his grandson watching into the heart of the flames...slowly he begins to speak to the boy...
Two wolfs wage war inside of me...
One wolf is full of optimism, kindness, honesty, gratitude, humility, and acceptance.
The other is full of pessimism, envy, greed, insecurities, and fear.
The two men - one at the end of his life's journey, the other at the beginning - sit in the silence.
Finally, the young boy turns to his grandfather and asks, "which one is winning?"
Grandfather answers, "The one I feed."
The crux of our practice today is about choice. We are made in the image of god, and therefore we were given freewill. We were giving the ability to choose. This is our magick. And our awesome - and sometimes terrifying - gift.
We choose moment to moment...
paper or plastic,
TV or book,
give a friendly smile or pretend I don't see them,
brownie for breakfast or dinner,
tell the whole truth or allow illusion,
half-full or half-empty,
box store or independent,
paper cup or skip the coffee,
cook or carry out,
allow or control,
step up or run away,
Laugh or take it personally,
and on and on and on....
It would be so nice if each of these small choices were simply black and white - "this is good and this is bad and I want to be good so I'll choose good." The thing is, life ain't so clearly black and white. There is a whole lot of graydation there...various attachments and aversion competing in our heads for thone. Will my inner perfectionist win out or my inner terrified child?
For me, chocolate is a benign example. "Well, I know the sugar makes me anxious, so I'll skip the brownie and feel so much superior to those who don't have enough discipline to eschew 'bad' foods." But meanwhile there is another, equally loud voice saying, "Eat the brownie. Eat the brownie! Eat the brownie!!!!!! Come on...eat the brownie... It's not that big of a deal...and it tastes so good. Come on...you deserve a little treat today"
So who wins? Which do I feed?
It's not as black and white as grandfather makes it out to be.
Do I stay in the relationship to practice loving another? Or do I set a boundary and practice loving myself?
Do I tell the whole truth even though it will hurt many? Or do I let it slide and help everyone avoid pain?
Do I ignore them out of respect for the person I have to meet in 5 min, or do I stop to say hi even though I know it will make me late?
I think it's Eddie Murphy who sums up this conundrum best...When asked between plastic and paper at the grocery checkout...he freezes not knowing which is the best environmentally. Finally he comes to a decision..."just shove it up a spotted owls ass and call it good."
We have free will.
Each of our minute, moment-to-moment decisions, create our lives. Yet the decisions are anything but black or white. There is no good and bad. Simply choices that serve the path we want to walk.
So we begin to make them more consciously.
Today I grabbed a paper cup. My desire for convenience outweighed my desire to be environmentally responsible. I'm still ok! Yet, I would like my actions to better reflect my values...so tomorrow, I'll either bring a cup or skip the coffee.
Yesterday, I was feeling insecure, so ignored a friend in the grocery store. Its okay. Now I have a chance to love myself unconditionally and grow my self esteem. Maybe next time, I'll feel secure enough to go say hi.
Today, I woke up and choose life. Tomorrow I'll do the same. There was a time in my life when I didn't. It was a hard time, because I still had to live everyday. It feels better to choose it.
So maybe Everything isn't a choice. Maybe some of it is fated. I like how Sammy Hagar sang in in the late 1980's , "I believe in fate and destination, but so much of that lies in our own hands."
When we choose - even if it is to choose something that is already fated for us - we spark an act of power. We release resistance and empower ourselves...and that changes everything.
An act of power to choice comes from our solar plexus...from the manipura chakra - the glowing, warm, bright, yellow orb within us that is as powerful as the sun. The deciding which choice to make? That can come from the solar plexus, but then it's more of the ego's choice. Ideally, we practice listening to that power greater than anything we could possibily imagine that exists within us. Ideally, we open our minds to listen for the decision, and then call up our fire to bring that choice into manifestation. From there, we make "good" choices - both grand and small - moment to moment. THAT is the practice.
Perhaps today your act of power is simply to take your vitamins. Perhaps that is all that can be mustered. One act of power a day is enough when that is all that can be done. Congratulate yourself for it.
Perhaps your act of power is to sit down for 5 minutes to do the craft you love...even though there isn't enough time for it.
Perhaps your act of power is in this moment to stay calm instead of feel rushed.
Perhaps your act of power is to reach outside of yourself and into someone in need.
Perhaps your act of power is to love, even when the other didn't feel like they were loving you back.
Perhaps your act of power is kindness in the face of anger.
Perhaps your act of power iss to set a boundary even though it isn't understood by all.
Perhaps your act of power is to look on the bright side when all else seemed lost.
Perhaps your act of power is to tell your authentic truth, even though goes against the flow.
Perhaps your act of power is to take one small step toward consciousness and away from habit.
Perhaps your act of power is to remember again and again and again and again....a thousand and one times.
Congratulations. You made a choice. You've made dozens of them. And each of them leads you to the life you dream. The life that was dreamed for you before there even was a you...dreamed for you by your deepest self...whatever you decide to call it. And over time... when the third chakra lines up with that will, you'll fed the wolf that wins.
Grandfather sits with his grandson watching into the heart of the flames...slowly he begins to speak to the boy...
Two wolfs wage war inside of me...
One wolf is full of optimism, kindness, honesty, gratitude, humility, and acceptance.
The other is full of pessimism, envy, greed, insecurities, and fear.
The two men - one at the end of his life's journey, the other at the beginning - sit in the silence.
Finally, the young boy turns to his grandfather and asks, "which one is winning?"
Grandfather answers, "The one I feed."
The crux of our practice today is about choice. We are made in the image of god, and therefore we were given freewill. We were giving the ability to choose. This is our magick. And our awesome - and sometimes terrifying - gift.
We choose moment to moment...
paper or plastic,
TV or book,
give a friendly smile or pretend I don't see them,
brownie for breakfast or dinner,
tell the whole truth or allow illusion,
half-full or half-empty,
box store or independent,
paper cup or skip the coffee,
cook or carry out,
allow or control,
step up or run away,
Laugh or take it personally,
and on and on and on....
It would be so nice if each of these small choices were simply black and white - "this is good and this is bad and I want to be good so I'll choose good." The thing is, life ain't so clearly black and white. There is a whole lot of graydation there...various attachments and aversion competing in our heads for thone. Will my inner perfectionist win out or my inner terrified child?
For me, chocolate is a benign example. "Well, I know the sugar makes me anxious, so I'll skip the brownie and feel so much superior to those who don't have enough discipline to eschew 'bad' foods." But meanwhile there is another, equally loud voice saying, "Eat the brownie. Eat the brownie! Eat the brownie!!!!!! Come on...eat the brownie... It's not that big of a deal...and it tastes so good. Come on...you deserve a little treat today"
So who wins? Which do I feed?
It's not as black and white as grandfather makes it out to be.
Do I stay in the relationship to practice loving another? Or do I set a boundary and practice loving myself?
Do I tell the whole truth even though it will hurt many? Or do I let it slide and help everyone avoid pain?
Do I ignore them out of respect for the person I have to meet in 5 min, or do I stop to say hi even though I know it will make me late?
I think it's Eddie Murphy who sums up this conundrum best...When asked between plastic and paper at the grocery checkout...he freezes not knowing which is the best environmentally. Finally he comes to a decision..."just shove it up a spotted owls ass and call it good."
We have free will.
Each of our minute, moment-to-moment decisions, create our lives. Yet the decisions are anything but black or white. There is no good and bad. Simply choices that serve the path we want to walk.
So we begin to make them more consciously.
Today I grabbed a paper cup. My desire for convenience outweighed my desire to be environmentally responsible. I'm still ok! Yet, I would like my actions to better reflect my values...so tomorrow, I'll either bring a cup or skip the coffee.
Yesterday, I was feeling insecure, so ignored a friend in the grocery store. Its okay. Now I have a chance to love myself unconditionally and grow my self esteem. Maybe next time, I'll feel secure enough to go say hi.
Today, I woke up and choose life. Tomorrow I'll do the same. There was a time in my life when I didn't. It was a hard time, because I still had to live everyday. It feels better to choose it.
So maybe Everything isn't a choice. Maybe some of it is fated. I like how Sammy Hagar sang in in the late 1980's , "I believe in fate and destination, but so much of that lies in our own hands."
When we choose - even if it is to choose something that is already fated for us - we spark an act of power. We release resistance and empower ourselves...and that changes everything.
An act of power to choice comes from our solar plexus...from the manipura chakra - the glowing, warm, bright, yellow orb within us that is as powerful as the sun. The deciding which choice to make? That can come from the solar plexus, but then it's more of the ego's choice. Ideally, we practice listening to that power greater than anything we could possibily imagine that exists within us. Ideally, we open our minds to listen for the decision, and then call up our fire to bring that choice into manifestation. From there, we make "good" choices - both grand and small - moment to moment. THAT is the practice.
Perhaps today your act of power is simply to take your vitamins. Perhaps that is all that can be mustered. One act of power a day is enough when that is all that can be done. Congratulate yourself for it.
Perhaps your act of power is to sit down for 5 minutes to do the craft you love...even though there isn't enough time for it.
Perhaps your act of power is in this moment to stay calm instead of feel rushed.
Perhaps your act of power is to reach outside of yourself and into someone in need.
Perhaps your act of power is to love, even when the other didn't feel like they were loving you back.
Perhaps your act of power is kindness in the face of anger.
Perhaps your act of power iss to set a boundary even though it isn't understood by all.
Perhaps your act of power is to look on the bright side when all else seemed lost.
Perhaps your act of power is to tell your authentic truth, even though goes against the flow.
Perhaps your act of power is to take one small step toward consciousness and away from habit.
Perhaps your act of power is to remember again and again and again and again....a thousand and one times.
Congratulations. You made a choice. You've made dozens of them. And each of them leads you to the life you dream. The life that was dreamed for you before there even was a you...dreamed for you by your deepest self...whatever you decide to call it. And over time... when the third chakra lines up with that will, you'll fed the wolf that wins.
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Happy Valentine's Day
Today we celebrate love.
Love.
Say it again...
Love.
It's a big word.
One we throw around a whole lot.
But what does it actually mean!?
Is love a feeling or a decision?
Is it everlasting or ephemeral?
Is it found outside of us or inside?
Are we spontaneously loving or do we need to cultivate it?
And what is up with love's shadow - codependency?
The answer is YES. Love is all of these things.
Today's practice is to feel into the layers of the heart and discover the feeling sense of love in our own experience. The practice is to build a relationship to love...so we can better understand this big word with four letters.
Let's start with the assumption that love exists in the heart.
Love - as well as the heart - can not be forced. Such tactics only cause harm. Instead we must coax the heart like a timid kitten. We nurture and support, caress and honor. And over time, she reveals herself to us.
Like any good relationship, we reach out and touch at the outer edges of intimacy...building trust.
We start with the lungs. The lungs gently massage the subtle beauty of the heart. As we breathe in and out, feel the edges of heart softens from the touch. As we expand the chest out, we invite life force in.
Something surprising may happen here. We may discover our grief.
Believe it our not (and in the moment it is often hard to), grief may be one of the greatest gifts we are ever given. Grief is the result of a heart breaking, and when the heart breaks we know that we are alive. We know that we are human. And we can find - if we let it - the authentic experience of true compassion - for ourselves from ourselves. We crack, and in the cracking we are exposed to the light...we are exposed to life.
The thing is, we're often afraid of our grief, as we have somehow learned it is not acceptable...so we suffocate it. The lungs store it.
If its hard to breath into the chest, then breathe deeper. Breathe until you either shine with light or cry with beauty. Fall into a puddle on the floor if it is called for. Give yourself permission to FEEL! Feel the pain and cry it out. Cry for everything you've lost. Cry for the planet. Cry for the rape of women. Cry for every time you've abandoned yourself. Cry until you are totally sick of it...and then cry some more if it is needed. The only way through the pain is through it...so give yourself the permission and authority to get through it. And recognize that you are cleansing your soul and lifting the heaviness - the dark clouds - that sometimes sits on the beauty of your heart.
When you are done crying (and since we are on a spiral path, you may cry again later) pick yourself up, surrender the grief to the earth, and move toward the next steps...the gates of the heart.
Very long ago, perhaps before you remember, you placed some very wonderful friends at the gates of your heart. You named them guardians, and most likely, they have grown huge and fierce, which was their task. Yet still, for you, they are your friends and are nothing to fear. When you approach them with humility, gratitude, and the desire to love yourself - they will let you pass into the inner most chambers (yet be warned, if you plan to damage your heart, they will not let even YOU pass!) Since these are your friends, treat them as such. Give a word of gratitude, some imagined flowers or tasty treat, or a pat on the head - some token of kindness - for the wonderful job they do at keeping your inner most being safe.
Now we enter. We enter into the deep, rich cave...the magical folds... the gentle, etheric petals of the hear.
Can you feel its pulse!? This unique beat holds the story of your life...it carries your inner most secrets...it whispers the reason for your being? Listen to it, not with your mind, but with your whole being. You must FEEL the heart - like a gentle breeze on your face.
Tone Aaaaahhhhh a few times and feel it yawn open the heart. All words for God have this vowel sound in it. I wonder...is it a coincidence?
Now sense, see or imagine, the soft, warm glowing pink light of the heart...it is there even if your mind believes otherwise. The deepest folds of your heart cannot be dimmed by any thought, by any amount of grief. The depth of your heart holds the true meaning of love for you. And your duty in the world is to truly experience...beyond the conceptual ideas of love created by the mind.
Feel into the inner most chamber of your heart...feel into the essence that brought you into life.
Let it open and fill the whole of your chest.
If you can't seem to connect with it, then simply allow grace.
Grace is like oil in the engine of a car. It keeps everything running smoothly. Grace is like a happy accident, happening for no apparent reason. Grace is simply being loved by love. Grace is so much bigger than we can possibly imagine, exists all around you and within in you all at once. So breath into your heart, and re-member grace is often the pathway to love.
Allow grace...and your connection to love will soon follow.
Build a relationship to grace, and grace will show up. Build a relationship to your heart, and your heart will show up. Build a relationship to love, and love will appear.
I don't believe we can will love, but we can learn to relate.
And as the relationship grows, nurture it like you would a new seedling. Hold it like you would an emerging butterfly.
As your heart unfurling its wings, you will surely remember how to fly.
Love.
Say it again...
Love.
It's a big word.
One we throw around a whole lot.
But what does it actually mean!?
Is love a feeling or a decision?
Is it everlasting or ephemeral?
Is it found outside of us or inside?
Are we spontaneously loving or do we need to cultivate it?
And what is up with love's shadow - codependency?
The answer is YES. Love is all of these things.
Today's practice is to feel into the layers of the heart and discover the feeling sense of love in our own experience. The practice is to build a relationship to love...so we can better understand this big word with four letters.
Let's start with the assumption that love exists in the heart.
Love - as well as the heart - can not be forced. Such tactics only cause harm. Instead we must coax the heart like a timid kitten. We nurture and support, caress and honor. And over time, she reveals herself to us.
Like any good relationship, we reach out and touch at the outer edges of intimacy...building trust.
We start with the lungs. The lungs gently massage the subtle beauty of the heart. As we breathe in and out, feel the edges of heart softens from the touch. As we expand the chest out, we invite life force in.
Something surprising may happen here. We may discover our grief.
Believe it our not (and in the moment it is often hard to), grief may be one of the greatest gifts we are ever given. Grief is the result of a heart breaking, and when the heart breaks we know that we are alive. We know that we are human. And we can find - if we let it - the authentic experience of true compassion - for ourselves from ourselves. We crack, and in the cracking we are exposed to the light...we are exposed to life.
The thing is, we're often afraid of our grief, as we have somehow learned it is not acceptable...so we suffocate it. The lungs store it.
If its hard to breath into the chest, then breathe deeper. Breathe until you either shine with light or cry with beauty. Fall into a puddle on the floor if it is called for. Give yourself permission to FEEL! Feel the pain and cry it out. Cry for everything you've lost. Cry for the planet. Cry for the rape of women. Cry for every time you've abandoned yourself. Cry until you are totally sick of it...and then cry some more if it is needed. The only way through the pain is through it...so give yourself the permission and authority to get through it. And recognize that you are cleansing your soul and lifting the heaviness - the dark clouds - that sometimes sits on the beauty of your heart.
When you are done crying (and since we are on a spiral path, you may cry again later) pick yourself up, surrender the grief to the earth, and move toward the next steps...the gates of the heart.
Very long ago, perhaps before you remember, you placed some very wonderful friends at the gates of your heart. You named them guardians, and most likely, they have grown huge and fierce, which was their task. Yet still, for you, they are your friends and are nothing to fear. When you approach them with humility, gratitude, and the desire to love yourself - they will let you pass into the inner most chambers (yet be warned, if you plan to damage your heart, they will not let even YOU pass!) Since these are your friends, treat them as such. Give a word of gratitude, some imagined flowers or tasty treat, or a pat on the head - some token of kindness - for the wonderful job they do at keeping your inner most being safe.
Now we enter. We enter into the deep, rich cave...the magical folds... the gentle, etheric petals of the hear.
Can you feel its pulse!? This unique beat holds the story of your life...it carries your inner most secrets...it whispers the reason for your being? Listen to it, not with your mind, but with your whole being. You must FEEL the heart - like a gentle breeze on your face.
Tone Aaaaahhhhh a few times and feel it yawn open the heart. All words for God have this vowel sound in it. I wonder...is it a coincidence?
Now sense, see or imagine, the soft, warm glowing pink light of the heart...it is there even if your mind believes otherwise. The deepest folds of your heart cannot be dimmed by any thought, by any amount of grief. The depth of your heart holds the true meaning of love for you. And your duty in the world is to truly experience...beyond the conceptual ideas of love created by the mind.
Feel into the inner most chamber of your heart...feel into the essence that brought you into life.
Let it open and fill the whole of your chest.
If you can't seem to connect with it, then simply allow grace.
Grace is like oil in the engine of a car. It keeps everything running smoothly. Grace is like a happy accident, happening for no apparent reason. Grace is simply being loved by love. Grace is so much bigger than we can possibly imagine, exists all around you and within in you all at once. So breath into your heart, and re-member grace is often the pathway to love.
Allow grace...and your connection to love will soon follow.
Build a relationship to grace, and grace will show up. Build a relationship to your heart, and your heart will show up. Build a relationship to love, and love will appear.
I don't believe we can will love, but we can learn to relate.
And as the relationship grows, nurture it like you would a new seedling. Hold it like you would an emerging butterfly.
As your heart unfurling its wings, you will surely remember how to fly.
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Starting a practice
The daily practice of...
...well, of practice.
And you say....
What kind of practice!?
Towards what end!?
By whose authority!?
What IS it that we will be practicing anyway? (I wanna know up front what you're conning me into?)
And I reply...
We are going to practice being fully ourselves.
We are going to practice authenticity.
Practice love.
Practice owning both the light and the dark.
Practice taking responsibility for ourselves.
Practice stepping into our rightful place in the order of things.
In essence, we are going to practice being human.
I mean, after all, we are already earth and spirit, so why not human soul too?
Our bodies evolved with the elements.
Our spirits evolved with the Gods & Goddesses
Our humanness - mind, emotions, heart and soul - they've been hijacked.
By what?
Doesn't matter.
It is not the issue.
Our very survival is the point.
So we're going to delve in...
Drop the mask...
And find what we've been searching for.
And we're going to be renegades in the process.
following several paths all at once.
With the highest regard and respect to the great teachers and wisdom keepers of our time, this blog's practice is to empower ourselves in connecting to our own bodies, spirits and souls...through the authority that already exists within us. Just as we reclaim healthcare from the business of medicine by studying plants, herbs, breath and holistic living, we reclaim spirituality from the business of religion by studying the elements, our minds and the more subtle realms of our being.
We will re-Member our souls - our humanness - from our own internal experience. Not from some esoteric codification of ideas that tells us what should be. Yes, we go to the ancient texts for guidance, but we listen to our experience for growth....and we tell the truth about it. No spiritual by-passing here.
We practice
Authenticity...
Acceptance....
Awareness....
Presence....
Patience....
Passion....
We practice...
loving what is
and making our mind our own best friend.
Through it, we will finally begin to fully live...
live the life of fullness we came here to live.
Knowing pleasure and pain...
Love and hate...
Joy and sadness...
Connection and aloneness....
Certainty and doubt...
Knowing the both/and...
and the paradox of truth.
Knowing that WE ARE ALREADY WHOLE
We are here...
And we are both human and spirit, earth and soul.
So let us begin...
One day at a time.
Truer than before...perhaps.
Let us practice the joy of living in its wholeness.
I hope you will join me.
on this extraordinary journey...of being authentically human.
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